☀️ How To Deal With Losing a Client

I lost a coaching client early this week.

This was the first time that a coachee told me that things just weren't working out and that we should stop working together.

As someone who is running and building a coaching business all by myself, it was easy to have this narrative in my head: "I've failed. I screwed up bad and now I lost the trust of an individual AND an income stream."

There was part of me that wanted to say anything and everything to salvage this relationship and opportunity.

But a framework that I learned recently from the book The Courage To Be Disliked helped me pause, breathe, process, learn, and slowly move on. It's called: "separation of tasks"

The idea is from Alfred Adler's theory of individual psychology and the gist of it is this: it's important to know when our tasks are and how they differ from tasks from others.

I often become unhappy, distressed, confused, and angry when I mix these responsibilities up. The biggest example of this is taking ownership of the task of managing someone else’s emotions or expectations.

In this example of working with this client, by taking a second to pause and think, I realize that even though I have definitely made some mistakes, it was important to separate how she responded to them from how I felt it tied to my sense of self-worth and value.

The more I could separate the two, the more I am able to feel lightness resuming in my body and be in the headspace to extract all the key lessons from it so that I can improve, and ultimately keep going.

Rejections are powerful curveballs that often pack a punch, but they can also teach us so much — as long we’re willing to listen.

👀 Come to My Senses

Starting this week, I will round up all sorts of interesting things that I found on the internet that engaged with each of my five senses (sight, smell, touch, sound, taste). Enjoy!

• One of my favorite Twitter accounts, the Cultural Tutor, was flipping burgers at McDonald’s before he started writing online and growing his Twitter audience to 1.5 million followers. Watch him tell his incredible story.

• It’s been raining a lot in here and I love the smell of rain, but did you know that the smell is caused by a type of bacteria and microscopic algae?

• My favorite thing to do when stressed to to pet my cat Dola

• Listening to this playlist helped me get out this week’s issue

• I’ve been dying to try the Menage a Trois plant-based burger at Slutty Vegan. Read about how this burger chain is taking vegan food mainstream.

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